I often notice when communicating with allistic people that, because of my need to overshare, they will often shut me down as soon as they hear something they don't want to hear, even though I haven't finished explaining my point.
Another thing, with regards to empathy - I don't see the point in empathy, in a situation that doesn't require it, but is otherwise expected in allistic society, so I end up having to "fake" a sort of empathy, even though I actually feel nothing. For example, my therapist had an operation, but I saw that she was fine, therefore I felt nothing. But, because of the allistic need for empathy, in all situations, I had to fake it. I actually told her afterwards that I felt nothing, because I knew she was fine, but that I'm trying to show a level of engagement that is expected.
So, I feel empathy greatly, when I believe that someone is actually hurt or hurting. After losing someone close, or my cats (who have always been closer), I've cried unending for several days, months with my cats. I just don't see the point in unnecessary empathy.
I often notice when communicating with allistic people that, because of my need to overshare, they will often shut me down as soon as they hear something they don't want to hear, even though I haven't finished explaining my point.
Another thing, with regards to empathy - I don't see the point in empathy, in a situation that doesn't require it, but is otherwise expected in allistic society, so I end up having to "fake" a sort of empathy, even though I actually feel nothing. For example, my therapist had an operation, but I saw that she was fine, therefore I felt nothing. But, because of the allistic need for empathy, in all situations, I had to fake it. I actually told her afterwards that I felt nothing, because I knew she was fine, but that I'm trying to show a level of engagement that is expected.
So, I feel empathy greatly, when I believe that someone is actually hurt or hurting. After losing someone close, or my cats (who have always been closer), I've cried unending for several days, months with my cats. I just don't see the point in unnecessary empathy.